I am in stuck-kinda situation. And it is created by myself. I am self dependent at times and self independent at the other. First I must tell you the difference between the two.
I am family dependent. No I am not. I'm just trying tell you the difference by this reference. Just like it, self dependent means, one is tend to do work according to his will. If he is not doing any work and doing the other is just because of him. While on the other hand, self independent guy is like who does the jobs as made to do by the surrounding. His all activities are influenced by surrounding. His decisions have others' effect.
Today, why I'm telling you this is because I realised there are two persons, and more precisely two personalities in a person, which is self dependent and self independent. The ratio decides the nature of the person or vice-versa.
First talking about self dependent person. A self dependent person makes his own decision, plans the things and does them as he wants to do. In order to make succeed his pre-plannings, he doesn't listen to other people and doesn't think about them. He may be cruel at times, to do what he has decided already. This person has strong determination towards doing his activities. Whatever he does, or does not is his sole decision without anyone's interference. He might not follow his plannings, but it will be a decision on his part alone.
While a self independent person is like a flying wing which gets its trajectory from the blow of air. Self independent person too plans, take decisions and changes them, later on, due to surrounding. Surrounding may be involved in the decision and planning making process. Thus, surrounding has his part somewhere in the entire process. These persons are usually be less frank and less talkative because they can't oppose the interference of the people. They get more confused in themselves. They try to solve the complication and ended up in a moulded situation. If everything happens according to plan, then the only reason is that nobody interfered.
A person should has both the qualities. Means he should be self dependent-cum-independent. A self dependent person is mean to others while self independent is mean to himself. A self independent person loses his importance and value. He has to suffer a lot because he, usually, has to do the things which are not his choice. He, then, lacks confidence and has to plan differently next time. Self dependent person gains happiness and most of the times at the cost of others'. He doesn't listen to anybody. If he has planned then that's it. Arguing with him will only be waste of energy.
So, when you have to choose from the two things and both have advantages as well as disadvantages, you should go for both of them, if possible. So, be a person who has both the qualities as above. And use them accordingly, so that you are neither cruel to others nor to you.
(C) Harsh Choudhary June 2012